Thursday, 6 December 2012

Been Waiting a Long Time for This

Before I get started, I'd like to reference this post by "The Reason I am here. Living the "Why Not Life".

It was his post, and the subsequent twitter conversation, posted below for your viewing pleasure, that have ultimately brought this one into being.

There is a lot about myself that I don't share with anyone. That's not to say I don't want to, I just happen to be a very cautious person. I tend to over think things and ultimately I think I turn down or talk myself out of a lot of opportunities because of it. I have always asked myself "why", when I should have said "why not."

I cannot tell you how many times I thought about starting this blog and stopped myself asking, "why would anyone read it?" "Why would I want to put myself out there? Why, when I am just going to be rejected in the end?"

I think fear of rejection is ultimately what motivates my constant second-guessing. Even now, I'm questioning "Why am I writing this?" Because I have to, because if I don't, that fear will always be there.

In the spirit of embracing the "why not" lifestyle, if only for a moment, I have something that I would like to share with you, all of you dear internet. It is way overdue, I just never had the courage before, and I need to put it out there now before I lose my nerve.

You should know, that when I was a child, all I ever wanted to be was an artist. I spent hours upon hours drawing, colouring, painting etc. My parents were, and have always been supportive of me but I'm sure you know how it is when you get older. Things you wanted in childhood get abandoned for more practical pursuits. As I grew up, I learned that it was neigh impossible to be successful and be an artist lest you have oodles of natural talent and likely some form of professional training/guidance. I'll let you know that while I feel I have a smattering of natural ability,  it's not enough and it definitely hasn't been cultivated into much.

My art became something deeply personal. It was something I hid from people unless they found me out. Even Cy, didn't know I drew until a year into our relationship and I didn't tell him. He found my doodles, hidden away in the middle of a binder filled with otherwise blank paper. It's not something I share anymore, because I've told myself I'm not good at it enough that I've come to believe that, and because I feel like one ought to be good at something to share it with other people.

So, in light of today's events, I'd like to post my latest picture, and open myself up to the potential fallout. Am I scared? Sure am, but if not now, when?

I'd like to thank both Cy, for encouraging me to post this when I was having second thoughts, and Wowmartiean for inspiring me to try in the first place.


  1. I am so proud of you, for taking that leap of faith! I promise each time becomes easier from now on as you got that first one under your belt!!
    That being said, that drawing is adorable. There is no way I could do anything like that! I think I will echo many readers sentiments when I say, more please? :) *hugs*

  2. I think Joe's post hit a lot of us the same way. I know it hit me too. As for your 'doodle' it's gorgeous & I'd love to see more too please :) {{{hug}}}

  3. Thank you both for the kind words and support. I'm glad you like my moonkin and I can assure you, I have a couple things tucked away for later, so there will be more.


  4. But it's wonderful!!! The only bad thing is it's driving me crazy that I can't hug and squeeze it! I love your Moonkin and I hope he has friends we'll get it see.

  5. That is adorable.

    I think that fear of rejection, of screwing up, of being laughed at is a very common one and that it suffocates a lot of very talented people. Inner demons should always be ignored unless of course they're advocating eating ice cream at 3 in the morning or sliding down banisters in official buildings (but only when no one is looking - sliding to a halt in front of 3 senior policemen and your boss whilst hilarious in hindsight is not particularly funny at the time).

  6. All I can say is I think you're wonderful and talented :)

  7. All I can say is I think you're wonderful and talented :)